MEMBER QUESTION

I am newly single and very shy after a long marriage and relationship. I have my life in order and have good vocational skills but am not skilled at getting out there and making friends and meeting guys-so I feel isolated. I am spiritual and do not go to religious services-so I wondered if any of you lovely ladies could give me ideas on how to meet older guys in life. I tried the internet and found a lot of the men want sex quickly and I am not built like that. Any and all suggestions would be appreciated. I also would like to make some new girlfriends and that too is hard to do at this age, at least for me! Sadie in Minnesota